Gathering Information At the Fearless Caregiver Conference

I am feeling invigorated and empowered after attending the ninth annual Fearless Caregiver Conference, held yesterday in Ft Lauderdale. Two months ago I attended this conference when it was held in Miami.

At both conferences, I benefited significantly from the opportunity to learn from professionals in all aspects of elder care who presented products and services and shared their wisdom about caregiving. I was also able to connect with other caregivers who have dedicated a significant part of their lives toward caring for their aging loved ones. While I learned a lot, I realized how much I've already learned as a result of being a solo long-distance caregiver for more than two years now. During the question and answer sessions, I realized I could have contributed some wisdom to every single discussion.

Fearless caregiver conferences, hosted across the country, bring together caregivers and elder care experts, to share their knowledge and experience. These conferences, generally free to the public, are offered by several dozen sponsors and exhibitors who wish to provide information on the plethora of products and services available to assist caregivers in making the best decisions in giving the best care for their aging loved ones.

The format for these helpful conferences consist of an exhibit area, where more than 35 exhibitors provide caregiver information on some of the following: long-term care insurance, Alzheimer's disease, hearing a technology, personal emergency response systems (PERS) monitoring services, assisted living facilities, nursing home facilities, home health care services, reading and vision products, breast cancer research, hygiene products, blindness prevention, hospice services, geriatric care management services, transportation, helpful literature and many more. In addition, a panel of experts delivered presentations on specific areas of long-term caregiving and they shared their wisdom in a lively question and answer session designed to solicit rich discussion helpful to all attendees. The AARP even provided comprehensive training manuals for caregivers in both English and Spanish.

Gary Barg, a noted speaker, writer and publisher on caregiving issues created the Fearless Caregiver Conferences. He is an inspiration to me providing a forum where elder care experts and experienced caregivers can share their knowledge with others. He draws upon his experience as a caregiver since 1995.

I learned some key information during yesterday's event:

---I learned a whole new definition of hospice that dispels the commonly held myths and misconceptions. My impression was that hospice means sending your loved ones to an institution where they will die—sooner rather than later. When my Moms doctor advised me she was a candidate for hospice in February 2005, I unequivocally rejected the notion of separating her from her husband, friends, and unfamiliar surroundings. The new model of hospice entails caring for terminally ill loved ones wherever your loved one lives with a focus on care vs. cure. Hospice professionals will provide services in their home. The reality is that most people prefer to remain in their home, rather than moving to an impersonal institution staffed with strangers.

Since my Mom has been diagnosed as hospice ready, there are a plethora of resources available to our family free of charge. I spoke with a representative from VITAS, the country's largest provider of end-of-life care, who informed me that daytime respite care, prescription medications, and even equipment we are paying for are available to us at no cost. I will certainly explore.

---I also found out there is caregiver assistance program (CAP) training at North Broward held on a regular basis. Because this training, scheduled for four consecutive days, is funded by a federal grant, it is provided free of charge, and even includes meals. I will investigate the training schedule and register for the sessions.

---In most cases, if your loved one has reached a certain level of incurability, it is best to avoid hospitals altogether. Even in some emergency situations, it is best to find solutions at home. It was acknowledged that often, older patients receive minimal attention in emergency rooms and often hospital patients fall victim to other diseases during their stay.

---I learned that there are no conclusive tests to diagnose Alzheimer's disease. Based upon clinical results and patient history information, physicians simply draw conclusions. Although there is also no definitive understanding of the cause of Alzheimer's, genetic links have been established.

---Depression plays a major role in Alzheimer's disease-- primarily because of grieving losses-- loss of self, loss of independence, and loss of hope for a bright future. It is perfectly normal for someone with Alzheimer's disease to suffer from depression, and there are many helpful antidepressants prescribed to treat this heavy condition.

---Reverse mortgages can serve as a helpful solution for some clients.

---In dealing with Alzheimer's patients, the best medicines are empathy and unconditional love.

---Caregivers provide billions of dollars (est. $250 billion) of uncompensated eldercare.

I highly recommend that you consider attending one of these helpful conferences. Attending such an empowering conference will allow you to gather a bundle of information, all under one roof, and all you have to invest is three to four hours of your time. They even include breakfast, a nice lunch, and a dessert break—all for free or a nominal entry fee.

I will likely attend the next Fearless Caregiver Conference that will be held in Palm Beach County on June 28, 2007.

Keep your eyes and ears open for caregiver conferences. Consult your local alliance for aging agency via The National Association of Area Agencies on Aging (n4A.org) or Fearless Caregiver Conference at caregiver.com for details.

PS Mom turned 92 today!